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Fatty in Eshakti Pt.1


Yesterday Jeanette and I headed up to San Francisco to catch Virgie Tovar‘s lecture on Intersextions of Fat Positivity & Sex Positivity at Good Vibrations. Well, we were very late. You see, parking in the city is a pain in the ass and well, we spent a good twenty minutes trying to find parking and by the time we did we’d probably missed a good chunk of Virgie’s talk. Bummer. But we went in and the fabulous ladies at Good Vibrations were so kind and helpful and welcoming and even escorted us back to the lecture so we wouldn’t feel weird being so very late.

I wish I could tell you all about the lecture and what I learned or took away from it, but to be honest, and more likely because we’d missed nearly half of it, I have nothing to report. The other ladies that were in the lecture were new to Fat Liberation/Acceptance and I was a little surprised by this, but in a happy way since they were very interested and seemed to want to hear more about it. Always a good thing! And I am learning to be more comfortable telling people about this blog. So far so good.

After the lecture, Jeanette and I stuck around the back room to take in the, um, uh…sights? Ha-ha! Well, the room was covered in crocheted penises!!! It was quite distracting. As someone who in fact crochets I was quite interested on a detailed level, too…but it was funny to be surrounded by it all:


There were just so many…everywhere!!! Ha-ha! Some were frilly, some plain, some, um, firm and some soft and it was a delight to look closer and see the individual adornments of the…pieces! Ha-ha! I’m a twelve year old sometimes, sorry.

After snapping some pics and grabbing a business card of the artist, we shopped around the actual store and we both found some new fun things to try out. I may even do a sex toy review again, yay!

Then we high-tailed it out of the city and to a bakery for a bite to eat. It was just so nice to hand out and chat with Jeanette. Even if we missed the lecture, which was a bummer, I still had a great time. We chatted and carbed out and checked out a fancy goodwill store that I swear I will return to. Oh yeah, and I wore one of my new Eshakti dresses:


The one I’m wearing is here, but it looks like they took the blue color down. No worries, it’ll probably be back. Little tip, if you see something missing from one day to the next, try just typing in “dress” in the search box and everything will come up. Not to say that they still don’t discontinue things, but I think they reorganize and stuff often and some things get lost in the shuffle. I love this dress, I chose the custom option for 7 bucks as I always do, but it’s always worth it! The cardigan I got at a swap, the boots are from Avenue last year and the tights are actually teggings from Re/Dress.

I highly recommend Eshakti to anyone, anywhere. Invite a friend over, bust out the measuring tapes and take each other’s measurements. It’s fun! And having your measurements on-hand makes online clothing shopping sooooo much easier. I have another dress I haven’t worn yet and another on it’s way…so exciting! Remember, I was the gal who hadn’t worn a dress since high school. I at one point felt I didn’t deserve pretty things or shouldn’t wear dresses for a number of other reasons. Thanks to Lesley Kinzel and my fashion idol,  Nicole, not only do I wear dresses, I rock the hell out of them!

Remember, I stopped giving a damn and now do what makes me happy…don’t  you? Thanks for reading. <3

5 Comments to

“Fatty in Eshakti Pt.1”

  1. On November 7th, 2011 at 1:21 pm Twistie Says:

    Damn! Wish I’d known about this event. It sounds like it would have been a lot of fun, though obvs more fun with you.

    I have decided that I absolutely need to order something from eShakti soonest. I’ve got a good friend with a tape measure who I know can accurately measure me, and then voila! Pretty clothes that actually fit me correctly! MWHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAAAA!!!

    Funniest thing: those crocheted manbits? In the smaller picture size, they look like flowers to me. Up close… not so much. But they are completely awesome and make me want to try crochet again. It’s not something I did well on the first try, and I gave it up about two days in. Yeah, sometimes I’m a quitter. Or maybe it’s that so many things that elude others come ridiculously easily to me that I just tend to stick with the stuff that gets me lauded. After all, if it’s easier for me AND it gets me seen as a superwoman, what’s my motivation to do the stuff that comes harder?

    Clearly it’s the opportunity to crochet very naughty things.

  2. On November 7th, 2011 at 4:00 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    Twistie: See, crochet is one of the few things I picked up pretty quickly, but I’m not consistent nor an expert on it. I’ve made blankets, scarves and even ventured into hats last year. Haha. But those crochet packages? awesome, I’d love to try it out. Ha.

  3. On November 9th, 2011 at 2:37 pm Larissa Says:

    Hi! I’m one of the ladies from the lecture the other day! Your blog is awesome! I’m so glad I got to learn more about fat activism … who’d have thought there was such a thing? Look forward to exploring those resources you guys showed me! Thanks a lot!

  4. On November 10th, 2011 at 10:58 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Larissa: Hi! Thank you so much for checking out my blog and thank you for being open/curious about fat liberation/acceptance. Feel free to drop me a line anytime, too.

  5. On December 8th, 2011 at 4:07 am NotBlueAtAll » Blog Archive » Fatty In Eshakti…Again! Says:

    […] for regular office attire once I find that j-o-b! What do you think? Is this dress or the others I’ve recently posted about appropriate for either interviews or general office wear? Is it […]

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