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Stay True To You


“I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him.”  ~Booker T. Washington


I saw the above quote on yesterday and it got me thinking very specifically about what “this time of year” brings out in people. Suddenly simply eating a regular meal becomes a teachable moment weather you like it or not. Holiday meals are now a spectator sport. Everyone must tell you or anyone within earshot how they simply “can’t indulge or I’ll be on the treadmill for the rest of my life!” And everyone has something to say about somebody else. Ugh!

First, fuck gossiping about people. Period. Second, since when what you or I do with our respective bodies is it anyone else’s business or concern?! End it immediately. Diet talk? BORING! Change the subject! Depending on the situation, be blatant about it! “So, how about those Lakers?!” When everyone knows I don’t care about sports…you get my drift?

You are under no obligation or social contract to listen to or deal with this stuff. You have every right in the world to say, “Excuse me but your topic of conversation is ____.” That blank? Boring, offensive, making me uncomfortable, wrong, over-sharing…whatever it is you are thinking or feeling. You’re thoughts and emotions are valid! Don’t let anyone try to insist otherwise. Because sadly, they probably will.

If you haven’t managed to avoid the holiday advertising you may want to brace yourself for the coming onslaught of resolution ads. I do think that those are the worst ones of all! Those and the “bikini body” bullshit ones. When someone asks what your resolution is, why not tell them it’s no longer dealing with nosy assholes? Ha-ha! Instead of resolutions, why not offer positive revolutions?! Celebrate all things YOU! Why the fuck not?! I mean, even when times are tough, and I know that they are, you gotta simplify and just do You!

But let’s all agree to not let these fuckers get to us. We won’t sink to their body judging levels. We will not feel shame or guilt for simply eating a damn meal! Food is not our enemy, it can just stay theirs. We will not engage in body talk of any kind, even what would be deemed “positive.” Do not comment or even acknowledge weather or not someone has lost weight. Don’t let the bastards get you down, no matter what. They will try and they will test you, but you are strong and amazing and you can do whatever you want! Hating someone allows them to get the better of you. Why waste energy on such a person? By remaining calm and cool and shrugging off their hate, ignorance and cowardice will only serve to show that you are the better/more positive person.

If you need support, we are all here for you. I am here for you. You matter. You are worthy. You are loved. You are a multifaceted individual. You know what is best for you. Trust yourself and your body. Listen to your heart and don’t second guess your gut/intuition. Stay safe. Stay true to you. Don’t take crap from anyone. Love yourself just as you are right NOW.

I’ll leave you with my fave quote of all time:

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless.” Mother Theresa

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5 Comments to

“Stay True To You”

  1. On December 21st, 2011 at 3:47 am Ashley Says:


  2. On December 21st, 2011 at 11:37 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Ashley: Woo Hoo!

  3. On December 21st, 2011 at 12:35 pm Twistie Says:

    Hee! One of my favorite ways of changing a subject that’s rapidly becoming toxic to me or clearly making someone else in the room terribly uncomfortable is to say loudly: “How about that local sports franchise?”

    After all, there might be someone in the room who doesn’t know I don’t do professional sports stats and thinks I actually do want to talk about the Lakers, Niners, Sharks, or whatever team is in action at the moment.

    As for bikini bodies, meh. You’ve got a body. If you want to put a bikini on it, that’s up to you. If I’m at the pool or the beach, I’m going to be too busy swimming and having fun to give half a moldy fig what anyone else is wearing. Those ads, however, do sometimes put me into a rage… especially when they show up right damn next to the email I’m checking. I don’t want to try Sensa, I’m not joining WW or Jenny Craig, and I have no intention of undergoing lap banding. Oh, and I REALLY don’t need to see encouragement for all those things and more while I’m trying to read the Fatosphere feed! Grrr Arrggh.

  4. On December 21st, 2011 at 12:40 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    Twistie: Yes! I love that better than my Lakers comment. Ha-ha! I actually bought a bikini on eBay, but will most likely give it away since it doesn’t fit quite how it should, comfortably. But yes, take your current body to the beach in any attire you so choose. Don’t fall for the hate traps that are the resolutions/diet/fitness industries. If I hear someone say these things I will take it upon myself to inform them of the terrible risks involved with each…with a giant smile! <3

  5. On November 6th, 2012 at 12:16 pm NotBlueAtAll » Blog Archive » Random Post is Random Says:

    […] set of holidays means dealing with a bunch of socially prescribe bullshit. Don’t forget to Stay True to You and check out my Tips for Sanity and Holiday Support pages from last year. I’m of course […]

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