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I know I said I’d keep it Positive…


But damn, this just bothered me!

Okay, she hated herself, starved herself, did all of those terrible things you do on diets and then struggled with her body image. I get it! I understand, I really do. Later reading the book, “Size 12 Is Not Fat” by Meg Cabot and later deciding she was beautiful just as she was at a size 12. This I’m okay with. Yay!You’re accepting yourself and that’s rad.

She then mentions the Marie Claire Incident and follows up with, “Are you listening, size 12s? You’re beautiful, just the way you are. The choice to see yourselves that way is all yours.”

What if you’re over a size 12? Is that still okay? Do I still get to be “beautiful?”

Perhaps I’m reading too far into what appears to be non-news, but it just rubbed me the wrong way. Ya know?

posted under Bullshit, fat, Fat Acceptance
23 Comments to

“I know I said I’d keep it Positive…”

  1. On November 5th, 2010 at 3:27 pm Regina T Says:

    Oh god…the comments there! It’s just….stupid. And you’re right…what about those (like myself) that are over a size 12? I don’t get why size matters so much to some people. The instant you step foot beyond their “gold standard” you become a monster, devoid of feelings, a heart, and humanity. It just boggles the mind the level of stupidity that fuels our society’s hatred of specific groups. I can’t fathom hating on someone so much that I rob them of just plain old human being status. The fact that they make such efforts to tromp on those they deem disgusting just shows how small they are—-and I don’t mean the size of their body. Why is this something that is so difficult for others to accept?

  2. On November 6th, 2010 at 9:39 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Yeah, what is up with that? The whole “not human” thing just screams different-kill it!!! to me. That is such a disturbing way of thinking in my world. I cannot fathom living life with that frame of mind. I certainly never would have been exposed to other cultures and lands without my own open mind. Thank Maude for that! Ha! Thanks, to you, too for reading/commenting. You rock!

  3. On November 5th, 2010 at 4:52 pm meerkat Says:

    Nope, if you’re a size 14 you’re a total fatty-boom-blatty. Also if you’re a size 12 and hate your body, it’s all your fault because “the choice to see yourselves that way is all yours.” Definitely no blame to place on society/patriarchy/the beauty myth at all.

  4. On November 6th, 2010 at 9:44 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Now I kind of want a top that says “fatty-boom-blatty” on it! Ha-ha! It has a ring to it I enjoy. And yes, the title alone just bugs the shit out of me. I hate to judge a book by it’s cover, but c’mon! Thanks for commenting. =0)

  5. On November 5th, 2010 at 7:07 pm j Says:

    I haven’t read the book, but when I hear “Size 12 is not fat!” I still hear “because fat is something you don’t wanna be, gals!”

  6. On November 6th, 2010 at 9:52 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Yes and that is exactly what makes me sad about that title. Ugh! Always makes me think of Marilyn Wann’s book “Fat! So?” and how awesome those two little words are together. =0)

  7. On November 6th, 2010 at 5:37 am Patsy Nevins Says:

    Rubs me the wrong way, too. I get so sick of these people who think they are being all enlightened because they proclaim that it is okay for people to love & accept themselves at size 12 or 14. Always, whether it is spoken that way or not, is the message that acceptance is only for those small enough to fit into the world & to be ‘healthy’, but the ‘really fat’ still should not accept ourselves & we still need to beat up on ourselves & keep working to be less than we actually are.

  8. On November 6th, 2010 at 9:54 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Yes! Exactly at what point did I become really fat? It’s all so ridiculous! Why can’t everyone just love themselves the way they are right now? Why get into semantics over sizing, etc. I recently saw a commercial where the “after” lady said, “Goodbye doubt digit pants!” and I turned to my husband and said, “That’s so stupid! All men wear double digit pants!” and he just smiled and nodded. He know how I can get into a tirade over these things, but that was just silly. Numbers don’t make the person after all. Thanks for your comment. =0)

  9. On November 6th, 2010 at 9:35 am inge Says:

    Why the hell did I look at the comments? I should really know better.
    Unable to parse the original article now because of the rage.

  10. On November 6th, 2010 at 9:56 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Yes! I used to shield myself from those comments and never read them. Now? For some sick reason this week I began to read them. I cannot explain why, but after ten minutes at one particular site, I just stopped. It’s torture. I want to believe that the world we live in isn’t like that. It can’t be full of hate, can it? But then I read those things and it just makes me nauseous. Thank you for reading & commenting. =0)

  11. On November 6th, 2010 at 11:10 am Twistie Says:

    (bangs head repeatedly against wall)

    Speaking as a Fatty-Boom-Blatty (I, too, want this t shirt!), I don’t give a flying fig whether a size 12 is fat or not. Whatever size you wear YOU’RE STILL A HUMAN BEING DESERVING OF RESPECT. It’s. That. Simple.

    Why do people complicate it so damn much?

  12. On November 6th, 2010 at 11:26 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Fatty Boom Blatty T-shirt
    I would wear this on the regular! (If I wasn’t broke I’d be all over this!)
    Design/Tee from (yes, they have plus sizes)

  13. On November 6th, 2010 at 3:43 pm Mulberry Says:

    Love the shirt!
    Also, I left a comment there under another name. Yeah, I know their comments are stupid. Best way to answer is to make fun of the haters. I suppose they’ll answer with more hate, but so what? Why should we refrain from invading their bonding-in-hate circle jerk? I am sure they’re not going to refrain from trying to infiltrate the fatosphere in any case.
    About the size-12 business, I guess they titled it like that because they wanted to sell more books. The concept that a size 12 is okay is controversial enough in itself, but bigger than that? Really, who’d believe that a size 20 is okay, outside of a few nutcases on the web?

  14. On November 8th, 2010 at 8:54 am Not Blue at All Says:

    I know how you feel, but I also think it’s important to not engage in the negativity hurling that goes with trying to fight/make fun of the haters. While I can certainly understand the urge to want to at least speak up/out against them, in the end it’s only a wasted effort since they seem to get quite the kick out of it.
    Controversial book title, yes, but does it reflect the contents?

  15. On November 7th, 2010 at 7:34 am meerkat Says:

    I think I stole those words from Shakesville!

  16. On November 11th, 2010 at 4:23 am Kath Says:

    In Australia, that book is called “Size 14 is Not Fat”. Bizarre!

  17. On November 11th, 2010 at 9:38 am Not Blue at All Says:

    That is strange, but it made me laugh because I just thought, “Huh! So Aussies don’t mind a touch more meat, eh?” I wonder why the difference.

  18. On November 11th, 2010 at 11:28 am Twistie Says:

    The reason that the title changed for Australia is that the size standards are slightly different. The same book in England would probably have a slightly different title again, but if you compared the measurements that go with each of the sizes, you’d probably find they would fit more or less the same woman.

    Not that sizes are well regulated or anything, but on average a size 12 American woman would most likely wear about a size 14 in Australia, and vice versa.

  19. On November 11th, 2010 at 12:07 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    I swear you know something about everything! I love that! I just wanna pick your brain, I tell ya! Thanks, doll!

  20. On November 11th, 2010 at 1:19 pm Twistie Says:

    (hands you brain pick)

    Have at it, m’dear! My brain is always at your service.

  21. On November 11th, 2010 at 1:28 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    (insert evil laugh here) Watch out, I’ll be taking you up on that offer for sure! =0)

  22. On November 11th, 2010 at 3:39 pm Kath Says:

    Oh yeah! I forgot to factor in the sizing standards. I even knew that our sizing standards are all different and didn’t even think of it.

    Goes to show you how arbitrary the whole shebang really is, doesn’t it?

  23. On November 11th, 2010 at 3:50 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    I guess it’s funny to me that they would bother to change it at all for differing countries given the fact that if you’re fatphobic/hating a 12 in any place would seem “fat” right? Ha-ha!

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