Help! I’ve fallen out of love with Fatshion and I can’t…
Oh my sweeties! I have had one hell of a week, and it ain’t over yet! I know I haven’t been very posty lately, and I do apologize for that, but with all of the madness that is running your own business while also dealing with random maladies, well, it just happens.
I was doing my usual reading of various blogs in the fat-o-sphere and came across this list of the top 40 fat fashion blogs when I had a sudden realization: I may have fallen out of love with FATshion!
Please, don’t feel sorry for me. It happens to the best of us. Things do tend to wax and wane, yes? I just don’t know. I think it may have started when I went to Big Moves Bay Area’s Cupcake & Muffintops 2.0 last month. I was at first overwhelmed with what to look at and try on and buy and then mega-underwhelmed when a pile of bottoms (mostly denim & capris) did not fit. I did buy some tops, but left with the weight of disappointment on my shoulders.
Next was the “Kaden” boots from Target that were posted on LiveJournal’s Fatshionista community with the promise of affordability and fit for larger calves…alas, it simply wasn’t so (unless you wear a size 11). And finally, when I went back to Target the next day to try on this Converse One Star dress (I was so bummed by the boots that I left without perusing the plus clothes) and it didn’t fit either. Maybe that is when I fell out of love with fatshion.
Or perhaps it is entirely due to the fact that I no longer have any sort of personal income with which to buy anything over $10. I had to save my tips for an entire week for the Cupcake & Muffintops 2.0 last month. All $29 of it were spent there, too. Glad I went. I had an incredible dark chocolate cupcake and got to talk to so many lovely fats. But damn. When you look forward to something long enough I guess it just builds up in your mind until it cannot possibly live up to whatever it is you think it should be. Like those damned boots!
I hate to sound bitter, but I have wanted some knee-high boots to wear with dresses for over two years now. And with all of my internet resources, wisdom and secrets I’ve still come up short. And damn, those boots would have looked amazing in that Converse dress, yo! Ha-ha! Of course it all plays into my fantasy of creating the ultimate grunge (to me at least) outfit. I suppose in the truest sense of it though, the heart of grunge, was to made due with what’s available or cheap or handy and not about buying brand names and whatnot. And certainly the things I had wanted to buy were/are cheap.
There is another reason: My current closet/wardrobe situation. It’s a nightmare! I have a pile of things I want to sell, donate and reorganize but never find the time/inspiration/motivation to even tackle it. I know, I know…little steps. Commit to one small task at a time, thus less guilt to harbor. But you gotta know by now, I just don’t do things the easy way. And we have so much less space for things than we used to. With fall & winter on their way I am looking forward to digging out the cardis and sweaters and layers! Oh how I love layers! But I also live in CA and that means those are probably a bit far off for now.
How do you organize your clothes? By season? By occasion (formal/casual/etc)? I have a friend who organizes all of her clothes by color! She even has hangers that match each item! I can’t get behind that because it would drive me insane. But I am open to your creative suggestions or advice! Please, help me fall back in love with fatshion, even if it’s just my own wardrobe!
Thanks for reading. =0)
*Listening to Presidents of the USA “Everybody wants to be naked & famous” and loving it!
I organize by season. I have plastic storage bins I use for clothes. Then I go through the clothes and what doesn’t fit or doesn’t strike me anymore I either donate or give to a similar-sized friend. That’s all there is to it!
Thanks. I’ve actually been pretty good about not having things that don’t fit anymore, but the seasonal thing is just one drawer of sweaters. They are perfectly folded and tidy (for now at least). It’s the rest of my wardrobe, or 95% of what I own that’s killing me. Ha! Thanks again.
I organize by type of clothes and then by color. I have all the tops together hanging in the closet with all the similar colors together, then skirts with colors together, then slacks. I have sweaters and cardis folded in drawers, again with same colors together. A few months ago I sold a stack of old things at a yard sale, so now everything in my closet/drawers is current and wearable.
So, let me as you this: when you get dressed in the morning, do you already have a color in mind? Because I usually don’t and when I had all of my colors together it was like nothing popped out at all and I would just stare and stare. Ha-ha! I never used to be a morning person, but now I am so maybe it would be different now. Thanks! =0)
You’ll find your way back! Maybe try wearing some pieces that you haven’t worn in a long time? Shop your closet!
If all else fails, I say take it all out and try everything on. Anything you aren’t in love with, you should put in a pile to sell. Then you can make cash and buy the things you want. I should also mention that I haven’t taken my own advice. Ha!
My clothing/closet situation is overwhelming too. Actually I technically have two messes. There are piles and piles of old stuff to sell/donate in another room (which I’m currently ignoring), then once that is gone I plan to go through my regular closet.
I’ve done some pairing down over the summer but it is still ridiculous. The only organizing I do is to have my closet with blouses/tops/cardigans and a rack of dresses/skirts, everything else goes in my dresser. I guess I’m weird but I wear a lot of my clothes year round. There are a few exceptions, but not many. With layering and cardigans, most of my summer wardrobe is perfectly acceptable for the Bay Area winters. Besides, I love walking around San Francisco in ridiculously bright outfits during the winter months with my rainbow-ish umbrella. Everybody else defaults to black!
I hope the cool weather comes sooner, rather than later.
I’m so relieved to hear that I’m not the only one! Ha! Thanks.
You what I think? I think we need to have a type of craft night where we take some our old shit and deconstruct or “revise” some things that we don’t wear into something that we will. Waddaya say? But we won’t drink our faces off okay?
Sounds like crazy fun, but we’d probably need like a whole day, you’re dining room table and both of our sewing machines! Ha-ha! And yeah, no more drinking faces off.
http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?topic=333544.0
You could try making knee-high sweater boots. Not exactly winterwear, but oh so lovely!
What’s funny is that I think I posted that exact same link on a bargain/thrifty/crafty post recently. Ha! Well, you have good taste. Thanks.