Color (Not) By The Numbers
Yesterday I was headed out to a fatty meet up across the bay and as per usual, I was stressing on what to wear. WHAT TO WEAR!?!?! It is the question that never truly gets answered. We are left constantly unsatisfied with our own wardrobes and styles and long for some mythical perfect outfit of splendor! Psshht! I’m slowly but surely getting over that concept, but I still struggle. I am always fearful of over or under dressing. I am usually a jeans and cute top type of gal, but have begun to explore, experiment and play with fashion more than, well, ever before! I am loving it, too! Overdressed? Oh well, ain’t like I’m doing manual labor, it’s just a meet up after all, so I went for it. I went and tried to put together the nuttiest thing I could with what I had. Mind you, I love lots of colors, but usually don’t go for anything super bright. But I’m getting there. I tested the waters of the color Hot Pink with great delight. So, yesterday I really dove in head first into colors…no, I mean COLORS!!! Prepare your eyes, babies, prepare them, shield them and remember that fashion and fatshion should be fun!
Bam! COLOR! But I felt like a little kid and maybe not in the best way. So I asked my husband to snap a pic and I text it to Nicole to ask if it was too much (I also had a yellow cardigan to go with it, ha!). She responded that it may be bit too much but that she liked it over all. My husband said it did in fact look like I was trying to dress and as a kid and I did feel a tad silly in it. Perhaps if I had a specific occasion for this type of technicolor outfit I would rock the hell out of it, but I just didn’t feel that the meet up (first impressions being what they are) was the right time or place.
So I headed back to my bedroom for a wardrobe change and I actually love what I ended up wearing even more than the mega-brightness you see above. All of what you see in these outfits are mostly newly swapped or given pieces and I am so grateful for such opportunities when I am out of work and without the moolah. And yes, the TEGGINGS!!! The hot pink ones above as well as the black ones below are made of awesome sauce! I can’t say enough about them and feel compelled to own all of the colors they come in! Oh yeah, the outfit:
I friggin’ love this dress (it has pockets)! I got it at the Cupcakes & Muffintops event last month and it fits like a glove! It’s so me! I love daisies! And that gigantic purse is actually a “bocce” bag from Tokidoki for Le Sport Sac in “arancia.” I’m a major Tokidoki fan and lusted after the Le Sport Sac stuff for ages before finally tracking down this little baby for myself when I opened my cafe two years ago. Who knew it would fit so perfectly with this outfit?! I love it! And yes, the wingtips are Doc Martens (via eBay). You can’t see it, but I have the black flower headband rockin’, too!
Best of all, I had a great time hanging out and meeting new fatties, catching up with good friends and just enjoying a lovely Sunday afternoon in Oakland. Woo! Thanks to Lisette for organizing the meet up! Thanks to Jeanette for driving me all over the place! Thanks to Nicole for the help, the dress and for hanging out even though you got blisters from having to walk so much, and hanging out with me. Thanks to Marilyn Wann for being so rad and kind and just a great listener and advice giver! <3
Now, for more fatty events!!! I am hitting Club Anton in Oakland on Friday for their Full Figure Entertainment night! Then on the 23rd is Big Moves Bay Area’s “Fat Dance: Oh What A Feeling!” in Oakland. And what I truly cannot wait for (but in a way I’m nervous because I’m gonna sing some karaoke, y’all) is Marilyn Wann’s “Squak & Gobble” B-day & Fundraiser bash in Oakland on the 25th! Woo Hoo! I suddenly fucking love September! Ha-ha! It’ll be the fattest month of my 2011, that is for sure! Thanks for reading. Hope you have a fat-abulous day! <3
That pink and blue outfit is fucking fabulous. I want it. Strip!
@Jessica: Thanks…perhaps I’ll have to find or create the appropriate occasion to wear it!
Playing with clothes is fun. And once you get a feel for what makes you smile, it comes much more easily. Use your mirror and your comfort level to figure it out, and soon it’ll be second nature.
I’ve always loved September. After all, it’s when I was born! In fact, tomorrow’s my birthday and I’m feeling kind of awesome.
@Twistie: Yay! Happy Birthday Fabulous Lady! ♥ ♥ ♥
Thanks, gorgeous! In proper style, I’m spending today covered in flour trying out a new idea for a tart. It involves lemon curd (I recently learned to make it and it’s FUN!!!), mascarpone, and fresh rosemary. I love playing with savory herbs and spices in desserts.
Tomorrow, Mr. Twistie will betake me to our favorite celebration restaurant… but tonight I’m cooking some fun things. Next up: homemade caper mayonnaise to serve on the melange of poached vegetables.
Give money to Best Foods when I have plenty of eggs and olive oil? Why would I? LOL!
@Twistie: Lemon curd? *Drools* I spread it on ginger cookies! Love that! And rosemary with sweet things? Oh hell yeah! Sounds like you’re in for a fun and fabulous day. So glad! <3
ok you are so lovely in both these ensembles!!!
@Jenna: Aw, thanks, babe!
All these activities going on in the Bay Area make me jealous and want to be there. LA has nothing fat friendly going on, aside from Love Your Body Day in October, which isn’t fat specific. I especially love the second outfit, and the wingtip Docs are a great detail. It reminds me of the vintage dresses and Docs look I tried to work in high school and early college in homage to X’s Exene Cervenka. I could never quite get it to work for me, but it was before I realized my body wasn’t really made for dresses and skirts paired with Docs and I look better in trousers and tops. I can still wear my Docs with my trousers.
@thirtiesgirl: You know what, we all have our own comfort level and vision of ourselves, but I will say that two years ago I didn’t think I could wear dresses either. I thought I’d left those days behind me in HS in my grunge years, but NO! That is not the case. I have decided to embrace what I love and not give a flying leap what anyone else thinks of how it looks on my fat body. And I love it! The teggings help so much for me! The chub rub is mostly what kept me from wearing dresses to begin with. And docs? I just love them. I went from having the one pair I trodded around Europe on my honeymoon in to having 5 pair that fit and are comfortable and damn stylish, too! So, be you, be comfy and don’t worry about the rest. But if you’re not comfortable in dress, so be it. You won’t get any condemnations here. Just hugs!
As for fat events? I’m so lucky and grateful to live where I do and know the fatties I know. I mean, between SF and Oakland, my September has been booked! And I live near San Jose. So I do drive a lot, but it’s always worth it! ALWAYS!!! You might considering dipping your toes into the organizing waters, but I would never push someone if they weren’t already hungry for such things. I’m co-planning/co-hosting a major fat positive event in San Jose in January (details to come soon) and it’s my first big event and possibly San Jose’s first major fat event ever! I’m nervous but the excitement overwhelms any nerves or negativity coming from ye olde noggin these days. Ha-ha!
I would TOTALLY rock the first outfit. But then I’ve been doing the bright colour thing for awhile. It takes time to get into your comfort zone with being so visible and bold. I started with one accessory or garment at a time, and then just kept adding as I got more and more comfortable with it.
But it’s no use heading out in something you don’t feel comfortable in, so work what you do.
P.S. Gimme those shoes in the bottom pic.
@Kath: I think I might rock the bright outfit for a party or something, but for a Sunday brunch type of thing, it just wasn’t working for me. And thank you! I love those wing tip doc martens, got them on eBay a couple of years ago, wouldn’t give them up for anything! =0)
See I’m that loud I’d totally wear it to Sunday brunch, and force all the people with hangovers to wear sunglasses around me!
@Kath: I should have text you the outfit pic instead of Nicole, I see! Ha-ha! I need more of you and your lovely attitude around me, Kath! <3