Okay, I get that there are people in the world who actually don’t masturbate for various and personal reasons. That’s cool. I also get that there are people who have no interest in sex at all. Also totally cool. No judgments from me. This post, though, may not be for you.
Also, if you know me or just don’t wanna hear about me masturbating or my thoughts on the subject, you can skip this post and come back tomorrow.
I know it’s been awhile since I’ve done one of these and this time is a bit of a re-do or add-on from back when on Masturbating. Yep! I said it! (Previous posts like this one Here and here.) I’m writing about this touchy subject (see what I did there?! Ha!) today because I was checking out my stats and it seems people are genuinely interested in this. Doy! I know! But hey, it’s been awhile and I wanna talk about it…let’s do thi!
Can I just say how awesome masturbating is? It is enlightening! It’s self-care in the best sense. It’s free and generally easy to accomplish and you get to figure out what turns you on and what your specific parts can do. Yay! I’m all for self discovery and exploring. I hate so much the bullshit that gets implanted in us that turns into shame, hate and even disgust at our own genitals and masturbation in general. It’s utter crap and you should pay it no mind.
Masturbation is great for your body and mind; your heart and soul! You won’t go blind or get hairy palms, I swear! Ha! But I’ll admit that masturbating while fat, especially the super or death fatties among us, can be a bit difficult. This is where self exploration pays off! If you know what works for you and your fat body beforehand, it will absolutely help you get off when you’re having sex with someone else.
Access! This is the biggest factor, am I right?! I mean, my vagina points down. This makes reaching certain spots (or combinations) difficult. Also? Big belly and thighs! While I love them, they can get in the way. No shame in that, it’s just how it is. Don’t be afraid to try a position on your own that you’ve never tried before. Put a leg up somewhere or try it on all fours! I used to prop my ass up on pillows with my legs up the wall spread out like a big V…it worked wonders. Whatever your specific situation may be, I encourage experimentation and exploration and generally setting the mood (and setting aside the time) to woo you! You’re worth it! 😉
With what now? Yeah, we can start with the basics: Hands! They’re awesome! They do so much for us and they can pleasure us, too! Woo hoo! I highly recommend just having a sensual touching session with yourself. Let yoru fingers glide across your chest, belly, thighs, neck, shoulders…all over! Stay in your body and mindful of how the touching feels in different spots. It’s fun! And you’ll discover certain areas are more sensitive and pleasurable than others. Don’t get stuck in a rut with your hand-time though, try your other hand, less fingers-more fingers, different angles, engaging other parts of your body…all for the pleasure of you!
Tools & Toys: You don’t have to spend a lot to get a fun toy for your specific sexy needs. You can get all sorts of neat-o devices, lubes, gadgets and woozles for your sensual pleasure. I like Babeland for these types of purchases, but hey, those on a budget can hit up Amazon, too (I have). In fact! Start a sexy wish list on Amazon! It’s fun to shop for this stuff. If you do get something new to play with, be safe, keep it clean and do not share! In this case, sharing is not caring. Set aside some time to figure out your new toy and to see what that baby can do! You may find that some are better than others and we all have varying levels of sensitivity with such things. Be patience and have fun!
For the love of lube! Oh how my sex life changed when I discovered lube!!! If you haven’t tried lube before, just try it once. It’s awesome! And I recently did some research on the subject and found that some ingredients in very popular lubes actually aren’t very conducive for safe sex (AstroGlide has an ingredient that actually welcomes HIV and breaks down cell walls, BOO!). Because of this I have personally switched to an organic lube, it wasn’t cheap, but it’s for my own usage and I’ll be sure to get some mileage out of the small bottle I got for $10 at my local natural foods store. Before this I used AstroGlide (classic, sticky, but lasted longer) and KY Liquid (slippery and nice, doesn’t last very long though). Make sure the lube you get works with your toy and/or condoms. Water based is generally accepted as the safest…
Coconut oil: While researching lubes, (because that’s something we all do, right?) I read a lot about coconut oil (unrefined) being awesome as fuck for self diddling! I haven’t tried it yet, but I’m actually sort of dying to. It’s not okay for condoms, nor is anything oil based for that matter, it breaks down the reliability of the latex, yo. But for self stimulation it’s supposed to be tops! And a little goes a long way. If you’ve tried it, please comment and let me know what you think and how you use/store it. Thanks.
What else? Have fun, silly! And share your sexy secrets with me! Please?! I love talking about sex and stuff, Queen of TMI and all. Ha-ha! What do you like? What have you tried? Should I really get a Hitachi Magic Wand? Which attachments? Ha! Tell me all about it! <3
Rad Fatty Love to you ALL! XOXO