I have been fortunate enough to meet a lot of new people and to expose myself to new ways of thinking and perspectives. No matter the setting or how I met these people, one thing still seems to exist no matter how much I wish it wouldn’t. The term “overweight.” I’m not sure when this term originated or if it was always applied to humans, but it seems to have a life of its own and I am sick of it!
Even self-accepting fatties use this term. Grannies and Aunties use this term. It seems like almost everyone uses it and it pisses me off. The moment I hear it I cringe and brace myself, what else will they say? Will they now begin to tell me to lose weight or diet or some other bullshit? I cringe and I wait, but I can’t always steel myself against it for long. Many times, though I’m not proud of this, I have immediately interrupted the person with, “Over What Weight, Exactly?!”
The look of shock on their face always haunts me later, but I can’t help it. To me, saying someone is “overweight” is hateful at worst and misguided at best. I know it’s just in our cultural vernacular, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be examining it. There are a lot of words commonly accepted that are actually quite racist. Friends give me a hard time and call me “sensitive” or I’m told to “lighten up” (which, ugh! Don’t even get me started on that shit!), but I refuse. Hate is hate is hate is hate. And all I want in my life, with my obsessive passion for words, is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is loveis love is love is love!
Of course, when you challenge such popular concepts as “overweight” you will eventually get the, “Well, certainly there is a point where it’s unhealthy!” I have been asked this in many ways and I always say, “Why? Why does that matter to you?” because I feel it all boils down to body autonomy. My health and my body are my business, your health and your body are your business, so let’s just drink our coffee and live great lives! *Slurp*
I have been watching a lot of old X-Files re-runs. There is so much good shit in that show, I can’t even begin to tell you! Some of the messaging in the show hits home for me though. “Trust No One” is a classic, but I don’t buy into that anymore. I think you have to find people in this world to trust, even if you know that you will only be hurt in the end. That’s totally okay. I see “Trust No One” more as Question Everything!
My favorite line from the show would have to be “The Truth Is Out There” and it is if you’re willing to see it. And to see it you have to start thinking for yourself. You have to get away from the group-think bullshit and stop exposing yourself to the hate-fueled mainstream media. I know you can’t avoid all of it, it’s everywhere, but you can limit your exposure. Because these things are just as toxic as man made chemicals.
The Truth Is Out There and all you have to do is Follow The Money! You will find all of your answers, all answers I believe, when you do. Everything in our modern world is driven by the money train. When you follow the trail of money long enough you find out some interesting and surprising things. We all know now that dieting is actually bad for you, right? Did you know that much like deodorant and shaving, the market for dieting and weight loss is fairly new? Much of what we see as normal or commonly accepted today was created by someone selling a product. That is all. Money.
There’s no diet-fairy-godmother doing her best to save us all from harm, quite the contrary! All that’s out there is cold boardrooms with meetings about profit margins and how to invent the next big fad. It’s all driven by greed. All of it! And while society opinions do change over time it is never without it’s casualties. How many of us know someone amazing and wonderful who is a victim of the dieting lifestyle (I do see it as a lifestyle now)? People who struggle their entire lives, at war with their own body and genetics, who never fully live. It’s sad.
There is hope. There is this incredible community full of resources, information, facts, the truth and the most loving and supportive people in the world!