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This concept was brought into my life by the lovely and amazing Margaret Cho. I have not one bad thing to say about that woman. She is an inspiration and a force to be reckoned with! I love her! The “LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…” was in reference to Marriage Equality since I was at the True Colors Tour concert when I saw her last. It’s really just the simplest of things, as love should always be in my opinion. LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…it just is! It is a human right, I believe. It is not necessarily instinctive, but it is as human as we get. I won’t get into my thoughts or opinions on yesterday’s announcement of President Obama’s sudden endorsement for Marriage Equality on a Federal level (since I haven’t read anything on it but headlines), but I am glad that he did it. No, today I want to talk about LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…

LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…is something that keeps me centered or grounded. To know that I am loved and to know that I also love; it’s a circle. It’s a whole and sealed thing, except it isn’t. I let people in as well as let people out. Being loved by me or loving me has no confines or contracts. It just is. LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…requires effort, honesty and respect, but not much else. It is difficult to explain, to some, how I can love someone I’ve never met, or how I can so easily tell someone, “I love you!” It’s taken me decades to get so comfortable with expressing my feelings, but I’m here and it’s liberating. I think part of how I got here was spending much time suppressing all emotions and then only eventually engaging and expressing the negative ones and then living with the regret of not expressing my love to those who mattered most to me. That one is the hardest. To those who can identify with that, please don’t wait. Just tell someone you love them today! You don’t have to wait for a response, the gift is in the telling, I promise.

LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…I used to be in love with love. And then I spent a good few years completely annoyed and even disgusted by it. Funny thing, that! Disgusted by love? Well, I don’t’ want to get too into it, but I was living with a great lack in my life at that time and stressed to the max to boot and what can ya do? “It is what it is” has become somewhat of a motto in my small beloved tribe. But it’s true. I went from a hopeless romantic to just hopeless and sort of bitter. Bitter doesn’t look or feel good on anybody. Let it go as soon as you can. Life is beautiful if you open your eyes enough to let its light in! When I finally got the courage to take the reins on my own life and destiny and happiness again, I found that I could love and could love life and love love again. Now I’m a hopeless romantic again, but with a deeper sense of the simplest realism and none of the embellishments we’re sold in movie theaters.

I can love and be loved. I deserve to be loved and so do you. We all deserve to be loved. We all ARE LOVED! We are! You may not even know or realize it! Someone loves you! Many people love you! How awesome is that?! Don’t think about the “why” in fact; let that shit go, now! There is no “why” when it comes to love. There is just love.

LoveIsLoveIsLoveIsLove…It isn’t that I have a special prescription in my spectacles that allows me to see inside the hearts and minds of people, it’s just that I don’t have to see inside them in order to love them. That is all. Super uncomplicated! I can just love someone, even when they hurt me. I can just love someone, even when they can’t love themselves yet. And I can love myself and this body I have and just be at peace with this wondrous combination of flesh and energy and share what I can with the world. Why? Because:


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  1. On May 10th, 2012 at 1:55 pm Patsy Nevins Says:

    Excellent post & timely for me. My younger son is battling mental health problems, he is in a hospital right now for evaluation, an attempt to get him properly diagnosed & on the right medication. He has had issues for years but ignored them & soldiered on, living, trying to do what was expected of him, trying to be alright, but he is full of pain, fear, so alone, & so in need of you. It looks as if what is wrong is mostly some kind of chemical imbalance in his brain & certainly not his fault, so we are hoping that he can get his life back soon, that we can get him back.

    Right now, they won’t let any of us see him & that is the hardest thing for me. I feel as if my ‘baby’ needs his mother, even if he IS 33 years old, & he needs to be reminded how much I love him & I need to say it. You are so right, don’t let it go unspoken or you may miss your opportunity. I could have lost mine.

  2. On May 10th, 2012 at 2:20 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    Patsy: *Hugs* I can’t say that I know exactly how you feel, but not being able to physically be there for your son sounds awful and I do understand that longing pain of just wanting to be there for him. You will get the chance to tell him that you love him and how much he means to you and how no matter what happens you will always be his mom and full of love for him. I’m sorry that you are having to go through such a difficult thing, but I have faith in the fact that things always get worse before they get better. So maybe this will be the worst and you’ll have answers very soon. I send you my happiest, loving and most healing thoughts! Don’t forget to take care of YOU! Love you, lady! <3

  3. On May 10th, 2012 at 1:55 pm Patsy Nevins Says:

    In need of help, I obviously meant. This a very emotional time for me.

  4. On May 11th, 2012 at 3:52 pm Twistie Says:

    @Patsy: I’m sending every positive vibe I can muster to you, your son, and your family. I truly hope he gets the help he needs and you’ll be able to be with him again soon.

    Topic: Relationships are complicated. Love is simple. Love helps you deal with the complexities. It gives us a reason to wade through the bullshit and the crossed signals and the everyday indignities that wear on us. It helps us overcome the crap.

    What the hell would we do without love? I don’t know, and I don’t want to know.

  5. On May 15th, 2012 at 10:51 am Josselyn Says:

    This was a paticularly great post, especially for me. I have gone back and forth with love, like you said, sometimes a hopeless romantic, and sometimes hopeless. You are right on, bitterness doesn’t look good, or feel good, and I don’t need to hold onto it. Thank you:)

    @ Twistie: “Relationships are complicated. Love is simple. Love helps you deal with the complexities.” I think I need to make that my new mantra, thank you for expressing it so gracefully.

    @Patsy: Mental health is tricky for everyone involved but painful times can lead to great growth and healing. I hope this is true for you and your son, and i’m sending positive thoughts your way:)

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