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Guest Post: Mrs. Sprat Fat Sex Tip #5: Intercourse is Overrated

January31

Mrs. Sprat is fat graduate student in Human Sexuality and her interests include fat sex, masturbation and body image.  Woo!
Please check out her blog http://lipidlove.blogspot.com/ and show her some love.

Fat Sex Tip # 5: Intercourse is Overrated

There is a hierarchy that all of us learn when it comes to sex.  First, we kiss, then we touch, then we lick and then we fuck.  Once that last one starts, the others become foreplay, they become additions to the “main event.”  We even go so far as to say that someone who has only had oral sex is still “technically a virgin” because they haven’t had “real sex” yet.

First of all, to take this position (so to speak) we are coming from a heterosexist viewpoint.  For some types of relationship intercourse is not possible, or is (gasp!) not even desired.  Not all gay men have anal sex.  Not all lesbians use strap ons or other kinds of dildos.  So why then must all heterosexual couples have intercourse?

I want to take a minute to stress that I don’t for a second believe that fat people are less capable of having intercourse.  If penis-in-vagina is what does it for you, that’s great.  I just want to encourage people to expand their horizons and get rid of this silly hierarchy.  And honestly, I think there are a lot of thin people out there too who would enjoy other types of sex more than intercourse.

One great idea is for the two of you to lie down next to each other, either both on your backs or sides or some combination (I find having Mr. Sprat on his side and me on my back works best for us) and then give hand-jobs to each other at the same time.  It can be a very intimate position because you are both laying close to each other so you can kiss, look into each other’s eyes, etc.  At the same time it’s a very comfortable position because you are both lying down and relaxing.  For me personally, having sex while both lying down is next to impossible because of my thighs, so this is a great alternative.  Also because you have more control over your motions, you can time it so that you can orgasm together, or so that you can have multiple orgasms.

There are literally thousands of other combinations where you can stimulate each other at the same time or take turns and these often go to the wayside once the big “I” is introduced.  Nothing about mutual masturbation  or oral sex, or 69 isn’t sex, it’s just a different kind.  And for some people with certain preferences they can be a much more enjoyable experience (I love my husbands penis, but it just doesn’t make me orgasm the same way his fingers do!)

So get creative!  If the petting you are doing before intercourse feels amazing, keep doing it!  If you miss the blow jobs you used to get before you got married, ask for one!  Just be sure to reciprocate…

~Mrs. Sprat

Yes! Please do ask for what you want. I can’t count how many times I’ve remained silent and simply hoped for the satisfaction I wanted. Lovers are not mind readers (though they can seem so), please give them and yourself the pleasure of sharing your desires. It’s worth it and you deserve it! <3 S
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6 Comments to

“Guest Post: Mrs. Sprat Fat Sex Tip #5: Intercourse is Overrated”

  1. On February 2nd, 2011 at 5:11 pm withoutscene Says:

    I heart you. We need more of this.

  2. On February 2nd, 2011 at 8:44 pm Not Blue at All Says:

    Aw, heart you back! And yeah we DO need more of this! I am determined to fulfill the title you have bestowed upon me (TMI). =0)

  3. On February 2nd, 2011 at 11:52 pm thepowerofmyth Says:

    I loved this post! I agree with you both we need more of this! <3 I think you are both so brave for talking about these kind of subject matters! Thank you I appreciate it!

  4. On February 3rd, 2011 at 9:52 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Isn’t Mrs. Sprat the best? I hope to work with her a lot in the near future. Secret plans in the works…Cannot wait! =0)
    Thanks, as always doll, for reading!

  5. On February 6th, 2011 at 7:46 pm Rachel Says:

    I second (third?) what everyone else is saying– yes, we need more posts like this. 🙂 Hooray for us awesome fat women who are totally fearless talking about sex!

  6. On February 7th, 2011 at 8:53 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Woo Hoo!!!!

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