NotBlueAtAll

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Fat Friend(s)

July8

(Completely random post is random)

I have no fat friends.
I long to have one or some or many.
I dream of shopping trips and chatty lunches, cocktails, karaoke & fairy tales!
Fat clothing swaps and picnics and BBQ s.
Someone to confide in and to tell my fat thoughts and desires to.
Someone to accompany me to fat events and a big fat club only fatties are allowed into.
A true fattie sister to rock out with and bring on the funk!
Or is this whole fat-friend concept bunk?
Am I really just holding out for a fictional BFF that doesn’t or won’t exist?
Some idyllic sorority sister whom I can make a pinky swear?
Is it the fat of the friend I somehow require or simply a good and trustworthy friend who won’t fuck me over?
This is the conundrum.
People are people after all is said and done.
I have learned this the extra hard way and had a glimpse of a fat friendship.
I knew it seemed too good to be true.
Never without a little bit of drama, but strong personalities are that way.
When they come together and let their egos out to play?
Yikes!
I’ve always had trust issues, but now they’re much worse.
I want to believe.
I want to friend-love again.
I want to take a big fat bite of that fattie friendship cake once more.
To walk confidently through the mall on our way to the ONLY Plus Size Clothing Store!
To try on clothes and laugh and OMZWANT with.
To discuss fat politics and encourage each other to BE.
Where is this fat, positive and with-it pal?

Guess it’s just me. As usual.

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6 Comments to

“Fat Friend(s)”

  1. On July 10th, 2010 at 12:38 am Elizebeth Turnquist Says:

    I completely relate. All my FA friends are online.

  2. On July 10th, 2010 at 8:26 am admin Says:

    Mine, too. I organized a meet up once, but no one kept in touch. Thanks for reading! =0)

  3. On July 19th, 2010 at 9:36 pm Erin Marie Says:

    I’m lucky in that my bestie and I are similar sizes – although we haven’t always been. We’ve both yo-yoed around a bit and have ended up in the same place, and I’m not going to lie, it’s fabulous. For my birthday this week she bought my not one but FOUR articles of clothing which she knew would fit and I would love because a) we’re the same size and; b) she knows me so well.

    But that said, there have been periods of my life where she hasn’t been around and I haven’t had a fattie friend. It is hard when they want to go shopping and you can’t both shop in the same store, so you have to do the ‘hanger flick’ while they’re spending forever in the change rooms.

    I hear ya – but it looks like you’ve got an amazing group of supporters right here on your blog and in the fatosphere – so mourn your lack of IRL fatties, but celebrate the love you engender right here!

    <3

  4. On July 20th, 2010 at 9:06 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Oh man, so jealous! But that is fabulous! To have a fat bastie? Just sayin’! She sounds like a fantastic friend overall. And I know exactly what you mean by “the hanger flick.” Ha-ha! I am beyond grateful for the life I have and the friends in my life. I cherish them above all, I assure you. It’s just one of those things, you know? To be able to relate to someone on such a specific and personal level. Thansk for commenting. =0)

  5. On July 22nd, 2010 at 7:31 am Rachel Says:

    Man, I want the same thing! All my friends are either skinny, not-FA, GLBT, or married/partnered.

    I love them all, but I can’t call them up when I’m bored and lonely and just say, “dude, let’s go out tonight, have some drinks, and meet some mens!”

    I can’t have an FA conversation with anyone except my sister; I’m surroundbed by diet talk, all the TIME.

    I just want to have a couple single fattie girlfriends to be a single fatty girlfriend to and do single fat girl things with!!

    we need a personals category just for girls like us, eh?

  6. On July 22nd, 2010 at 8:16 am Not Blue at All Says:

    Here’s the thing though, I’m a married lady, but I love going out to drinks with friends and checkin’ out the dudes. Nothing wrong with that at all. Not sayin’ I would ever do anything if a guy ever made a move so to speak, but it’s a natural thing. In fact, one of my fave things to do every now and then is hit up our local goth club with my BFF and dance the night away…and check out guys! Ha-ha! My husband doesn’t mind at all. We’re very secure in our relationship and neither feel a threat is out there. But we’ve also been together 12 years, so it’s different. I’m sorry to hear about all of the diet talk. I’m trying to find quick and easy ways to deflate those attackers or at least change the subject in a classy way. Let me know if you have ideas. Have you checked out meetup.com because I’ve seen some groups specifically for plus size/BBW people. It’s tricky because some are singles groups while others are purely social. Worth a shot!

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