Last Friday night was beyond wonderful. I got to spend some much needed gurl-time with two of my favorite ladies in the universe, Jeanette and Nicole! It was more of a gurl’s night in, but we had a total blast! One goal was to style some of Jeanette’s separates into outfits and accessorize. Nicole has such a great and creative eye for these things, but after two cocktails, well, I wasn’t exactly quiet about my thoughts and opinions. Ha-ha!

Since I knew we’d be dressing up Jeanette and taking pictures most likely, I wanted to show up looking cute so as not to feel left out of the fatshion-ness and fun! I wore my latest Eshakti buy and what I call my Zooey Deschanel dress, but they call it the Take a Bow Dress:

I have to say, I feel so girly and cute and fun in this dress…and it has friggin’ pockets! I couldn’t decide how best to tie the ties, so I let ‘em hang. I’m also wearing black teggings, Avenue shoes and a Torrid necklace from ages ago. Next to my feet are my recent Avenue slipper socks purchase. So snuggly! I wore those the rest of the night, I won’t lie to ya.

It was so much fun to go though another fatty’s closet. And Jeanette’s was so damned organized and colorful and lovely and damn, some envy was happenin’ y’all! But she works hard and occasionally plays hard, so I am glad she has a bad ass closet for her bad ass self! I can’t wait to see her wearing some of the stuff Nicole put together for her. Too cute!

All of the fatshion talk got the better of me. I had forgotten how much I used to love clothes and style and all of it! I mean, my first real job was at Contempo Casuals, I was obsessed and applied ON my 16th b-day! I loved it there, but somehow lost my love of fashion after I gained much weight in my late teens. Being around Nicole and seeing her style always inspires me, so yesterday I did the previously unthinkable: I wore a skirt! Nicole would be proud! And she should be since half the outfit came from her anyway, ha-ha!

The skirt and belt came from Nicole, the top is a new Avenue Henley with crystal buttons. Black teggings again! Same shoes, too…No necklace and just some 3 buck earrings I got at a craft fair last year. I was comfy and cozy and feeling mighty flirty. We had our BFFs over for dinner, drinks and a movie. We watched “The Girl Who Played With Fire” and witnessed my husband get truly sloppy drunk for maybe the first time.

So, Teggings! Thicker than tights, thinner than leggings. I gave my husband a bit of a rant yesterday about my love of teggings. I explained to him that they have given me a freedom to wear pretty dresses again! That teggings make me impervious to the elements, embarassment and even the dreaded “chub rub!” Teggings have given me the courage to wear a skirt again! And I love that you can’t see my unshaven legs under them at all! Because it is fucking cold and I will be damned if I am going to even attempt to shave my legs right now. But that’s a rant for another time. Teggings! Oh my lovely and glorious teggings! I just ordered 2 more in black because I wear them so much, but I have almost all of the other colors now, too. They have swapped out some colors I’ve noticed, like the green ones are gone, but I have a pair. Haven’t figured out what to wear ‘em with yet, but that’s hardly a terrible thing!

I am enjoying this new found love of dresses and teggings. And it seems people are noticing. That’s not such a bad thing. I like looking nice with little fuss and dresses are for exactly that! I can feel casual while looking more dressy than usual without worrying about this that and the other thing. Eshakti has also given me the chance to stand out from the crowd in a positive way. Their custom sizing option is like the best taste of fatshion freedom I’ve ever had! To order something online and not have to worry about if it will fit? Magic! To know that there is a slim chance someone else will have your exact same dress is nice, too. I have one more dress on it’s way and I can’t wait! I still have one in my closet that I bought in October that I haven’t worn yet. Just have to get out more, I suppose! Ha-ha!

The Duke Of Cute Bids You A Fond Farewell!
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Since many parts of the world are getting colder right now I thought why not try something different than the old Tank Top Tuesday posts and go in the opposite direction: Winter Wear! I also hope to do a coat shopping guide/options post soon.  Please see below for information on how you can submit your own pics and info for future posts. Thanks.

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This week’s Fats in Winter Wear submission comes from Cia in Scandinavia! And a Lovely submission it is:

This picture was taken at a Christmas market in my little town last weekend. My friend, who took the picture, and I like to dress up for all town events and pretend that we live in Stars Hollow. A little silly, I know, but it gives us joy. The snow is unusually late this year (so I could wear those cute shoes), but it was really cold, so we got into the cozy Christmas spirit anyway.

Coat: H&M (and a steal at half price! It was from their regular selection, ie for non-fat people, but it’s just a little snug at the biggest size and sometimes I just choose to live with that.)
Dress: Indiska – they don’t have a plus size section, but a lot of their clothes are really fat friendly. I could grow in this! I don’t know if they are outside Scandinavia, though.
Tights: Lindex
Shoes: El Naturalista (they’re organic!)
Hat: Vero Moda
Scarf: Glitter

It’s a great idea to write about this, because winter clothing is a special challenge as a fat! Living this far north can only layer so much before the hard winter sets in and we all need thick, sturdy coats and those coats are few and far between in plus sizes! I’m still searching for one that I can comfortably close while wearing thick wool sweaters underneath.

Hugs from Cia

Thank you so much, Cia! That coat is gorgeous and I love your picture with the vibrant red accents beside you…lovely!

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That can make you feel so friggin’ awesome!!!

Like my tried and true pug-love, he is such a snuggle:

One dollar fingerless gloves from Target, you know those magical dollar bins when you walk in:

New tube of mascara, I am loving Maybelline’s Falsies Flared, just tried the “Drama Black”:

New lip stain for cheap, that claims it is “smooch proof” we’ll just have to see about that:

I’m wearing the “Berry Long Time” in the third photo above…I love the color!

Funky sneaker that reminded me of my niece, so I had to have them…they make me feel like a kid and a bad ass:

What simple things make you feel awesome? Share! <3

So last Friday, you know the shopping one, my friend Jeanette and I decided to hang out. I was feeling funky, fresh, dope and fly and so I put together an outfit I’d never worn before. Not only that, the top I didn’t even pick out. Someone at Cupcakes and Muffintops insisted it is too cute for me not to get and so I bought it without even trying it on. It was that cute! But it took me months before I attempted to wear it and until this particular Friday, I hadn’t found a way to work it. The cardigan has a similar story. I’d purchased it for a steal at Target on clearance, but it’s ivory and what am I doing with an ivory cardigan? I get things dirty without even trying! It has this lovely deco-esque square latticework on the front…just fabulous, which is why I bought it of course. Never in my dreams had I thought of these two cherished but unworn pieces together…but they do, perfectly:

And I started rocking my “pomp” again. Which I am quite enjoying. I am sick of my shortie hair in the back, but I am hopeful and patient that they will get to growin’ soon here. I wasn’t sure what color glasses to wear, so I went with my usual/casual/go-to pair of dark purple. You can hardly see, but I’m wearing the earrings and necklace set my then fiance bought me 6 months before our wedding. I hadn’t worn the necklace in ages and I love it’s simple elegance. And of course my usual Avenue denim lite straight leg jeans. I am loathe to even imagine the day I need to buy new jeans. I have five pair of these and wear them constantly. They are thin and have stretch. I buy them a size bigger than I should, but I never have to unbutton them and they are the perfect length this way. They are discontinued though, so yeah, they better last forever. Ha-ha!

The Puggyman doesn’t like his picture taken. Always a suspicious eye when the camera is out:

I had never gone black Friday shopping, truly. I’d always worked on such days for my many years of retail. Jeanette and I only went to Avenue, but it was fun! No crowds, no rude clerks, it was fabulous. For a grand total of twenty-six dollars, I made out like a bandit: Two free tote bags*, one pair of leg warmers, one printed henley, one black henly, one pair of glam earrings and one pair of sock-slippers. And the tote bags are nice, too! It was not only the best black Friday experience I’d ever had, but it was the best Avenue experience, too! I will say that I am super disappointed and a bit angry that they no longer carry EE tights…not even on their website, except for the plainest of plain ones. I did order a pair of the sweater tights in an E, but they haven’t come yet, so fingers crossed that they fit. This shopping trip was a hoot and a half, too. Jeanette and I tried on shoes and played with accessories and she got so many cute things, too! Then it was decided that these were the sexiest and most glam shoes ever! But I insist that we find the exact same style, or similar, in a flat. I refuse to suffer for such beauty. We tried them on and made up stories of our would-be glamorous lives, had we these magical shoes and finally put them away with a catch in our throats…if you know of a similar shoe in a flat? DO EMAIL ME! Ha-ha! *I made two separate purchases, thus earning two free with purchase tote bags.

This TMI Tuesday post is a review of a Sex Toy! If this doesn’t interest you, you’d rather not know about my sex life or toy preference, or you’re at work and don’t wanna get in trouble, do come back tomorrow for your regularly scheduled random fatty talk right here on my blog-a-ma-thing. Thanks! <3

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Every time I go to Good Vibrations in San Francisco, I try to buy something. To support them, to support my sexual well being and well, it’s an awesome place to shop. I find it hard not to look around and grab a little something before I leave. There are a bunch of reasons to go to and support Good Vibrations, but you can find those at the linky there. Today I wanted to talk about the latest toy I purchased.

Meet “C-Spot”: The C-Spot has a very special job indeed — its main function is as a clit stimulator, and wow, is it good at its job! Long and thin, the head is angled for the perfect fit on your clit. Slim enough to fit in between bodies during partnered sex, this little vibe also provides an extended reach for folks with disabilities. Not limited to external fun, this vibe also makes a great internal G-spot stimulator. Oh, and it’s waterproof too!