This one is extra TMI today, my friends. And so I warn with extra warn-y-ness that this may not be a post you’d like to read today. This post may just be too graphic or vulgar for your taste. I don’t know. This is entirely up to you at this point. That said, if you know me personally, or simply would rather not know about my sex life or bodily functions, please come back another day. Today’s TMI is often just not talked about or considered very taboo or even mythological and many will find it repulsive or possibly awe inspiring. Who knows?! But seriously consider what you would most not like to read about here and weigh that against your curiosity. Thanks!

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So, what is SO TMI that even yours truly, The Queen of TMI, feels the need to post such warnings? What could I possibly want to talk about now, after so many TMI Tuesdays (honestly, my most popular posts!), that I hesitated over and over even writing about it?

Y’all! OMZ! I can’t believe it, but…I had the most amazing orgasm of my life on Saturday night! It was like nothing I’d ever experienced before. And I’ve never really been one of those ladies who fakes it, okay? So this is legit. I promise! You know how, like, before you’ve ever had an orgasm (and I do understand that some women simply can’t or haven’t yet, no worries) and someone tries to explain it to you but they make zero sense? Or they go on and on about flashing lights and shooting stars and radiations and you’re all like, “Would you get to the orgasm part?!” Well, it was a lot like that. Only, well, this one was extra special…

I have to admit that when it happened I was slightly in-shock or disbelief for a half second, but once I realized what had just transpired? I wanted to fucking high-five myself! Ha-ha! I’m not even kidding! I wish I had had someone I could have told right then, because I was all like, “Fuck yeah! Go me!” Ha-ha! It was that amazing!

So, what happened that made it so great? Well, it was out of my control, but I Squirted! I always thought such a thing was bullshit or weird or pointless, but it happened and it was fantastic! I had seen it in a porno, but never had it happen to me. I recall a previous TMI Tuesday post where a commenter mentioned it, and so I looked up some porn specifically featuring this ability. I wasn’t impressed. In fact it made me think it was stupid, since these ladies were obviously there to do that one thing. They looked like they had other places to be! Ha! But I had had an instance a week or so ago where I just couldn’t climax. Now I am wondering if this is part of it.

You see, I usually have regular orgasms. Not the same kind as when I masturbate (I’m actually pretty terrible at that, honestly!), but when my husband gives me a good one it’s awesome. But there have been times where I’ll wanna stop before I get there because something feels different or whatever. I can’t explain it. But that commenter had said to go with it and ride it out and see what happens. I think I was afraid that I would pee! But I rode it out and holy shit! What also made it amazing was that my husband climaxed at the exact same moment (that has never happened before either) so that when he pulled out it was like a jet stream! I could HEAR it! (High-five!) And I felt it! Whoa! Did I ever feel it?! It was like nothing I’d experienced before. It was fucking intense! I shuddered and moaned for a good long time afterwards, too. It lasted way longer than anything before.

Now, as for the existence of the “G-Spot” and it’s possibly causing the squirting or ejaculation? I believe that this is true. When it happened to me (mind you this was the first time I believe though I can recall much smaller versions of this happening while masturbating in a squatting position years ago) it had taken me awhile to get close to climaxing and frankly my left thigh cramped up and so I laid on my back. My husband sat between my legs and manually stimulated my clitoris while resting and rubbing his penis against and into my vagina. Oh gawd, that was amazing! Ahem. So what basically happened was, he started thrusting into me while also fingering me and hit the magic button (G-Spot) and WHAM! Like nothing else!

Have you squirted before? Does the concept freak you out? Have you had another TMI related experience you’d like to share? Go ahead!
Thanks,
<3
S

**ETA: As luck would have it, today I came across this post over at the happy bodies blog!
Woo!!! Check it out! Especially if you don’t think you have or cannot find your g-spot!

This is the part where I say something like: If you know me or would just rather not know about my sex life or preferences, please come back for your regularly scheduled fat blogging tomorrow. Thank you so very much!

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I don’t know what is up with me, but it’s like a switch got turned on and then so did I! I have been a mass of lustiness lately. I can’t explain it exactly, but it’s sort of like one day I was all, “Sex? Eh. Whatever, sure. I guess.” and the next I was all, “OMZ! I NEEDZ TEH SEX! GIVEZ TO ME NOW!” for no apparent reason. Ha-ha! I do understand that hormonal fluctuations may be the cause, but hey, might as well enjoy the ride, right?!

Being with my husband for nearly thirteen years (married half that), we’ve been through it all together. I was on the pill for many many years (too many if you ask me) and little did I know that this was the reason I kind of grew uninterested in sex overall. I enjoyed it when we did it, but it just wouldn’t occur to me to initiate or do it on my own at all at that time. I didn’t even masturbate for like years! I had no libido what so ever! Then I stopped taking the pill. There was about a week where I hated my husband and everyone else in the world while I was coming off the hormones. Not a good week for anyone around me I’m sure. But once I’d stopped the pill and started my regular cycles again (because I was doing my packs back to back so I’d only get 4 periods a year) suddenly sex seemed like a great idea and one I’d think about and do way more often than before.

My poor husband. Ha-ha! No, he’s awesome. And luckily for me, patient, too! We tried all kinds of things, but in the end we stick to fairly simple sexy times. Now I’m the one who initiates sex. Sometimes with a simple, “Wanna do it?” or just gentle touching and rubbing or holding of each other. It’s fantastic! And it’s never been better! Now, I’ll admit to being a bit of a Pillow Princess, but not because it’s a preference of mine. Okay, so here’s where I’ll get really TMI: My husband usually gets me off first by fingering my clit while I’m on all fours and then after I climax he will penetrate me, in this same position, until he orgasms. We use condoms and lube and it’s fun! I can’t sing the praises of lube enough, use it, it’s the best! I wish I’d known about it sooner!

Now this is a combined effort. I would much prefer we please and tease each other back and forth and vary penetrative and oral and everything in between (heavy fondling?) until we finally must just fuck…ya know? But I don’t think that this is his preference and he seems to like to focus on one thing at a time. I’m too much of a multi-tasker, I guess. So lately I’ll give him some appetizer oral and then he’ll get down to making me cum and then we’ll “do it” and that is that. It’s always fantastic, our needs are simple and always met. Rarely any disappointment. And when there is it’s usually because of trying something new.

We bought a liberator set a couple of years ago. I had read about them somewhere and then heard from a fat blog somewhere that it had helped with different positions. So we got a set and tried it a few times and I guess just never got the hang of it or I don’t know?! We tried a few positions, but in the end just stuck with what we knew and kept it simple. We still have our set, somewhere. But lately I’ve been mentally obsessed with me-on-top sex. I had an idea of how to go about it the other day and tried it, but I miscalculated my height versus the height of our bed and thus it didn’t exactly work. For me I think being on top is a problem not because of being self-conscious (after thirteen years? Yeah, right!), but of feeling unsupported. I got on top and all and then sort of just stayed in the lean-forward position with my hands on either side of his shoulders on the bed. Just sort of moving forward and back with me in a sort of doggie position while he was under me. It was awkward and the reason I have long said I hate the girl-on-top position. He said I should try to sit up and place my hands on his chest, but I just wasn’t feeling it at that point.

I would often fantasize about using the couch or an office chair. This latest attempt I had thought I could have him lay at the very edge of the bed and I could just put one leg up on the bed and thus have most of my weight and muscle strength from the other leg on the floor for more control and movement. But my legs are too short or our bed slightly too tall for it to work. I thought about trying again with the liberator, but I don’t even know where to start and I don’t even know why it’s been in my mind for so long. I don’t fear crushing him at all and I’m fine with him seeing me in the all-together (as they say). I just can’t feel comfortable or supported enough to sit up. In my mind it works out great (he-he) but in reality? Not so much.

Then yesterday morning I woke up after having an incredibly sexy dream! It was so fantastic, but I haven’t broached the subject with my husband yet. I feel, honestly, like I’m some sort of nympho suddenly and he doesn’t know what to do with me. He’s seems up for the task at hand (so to speak), but also not aggressively so. I’m in no way forcing him to participate, but I also don’t feel like he’s as into it as I am. And that kind of sucks, to be frank about it. This dream? It was of him slowly and methodically tying me up (sort of like in this book, which I wanna check out) and teasing me every few minutes until I was tied in such a way that left me begging for, well, more more more! I’d always seen myself as a dominant lady in the boudoir, but this dream along with other fantasies has lead me to the conclusion that I am more of a submissive than I had previously realized. I’ve never really ventured into the BDSM world, but for some reason it’s very attractive to me right now.

The funny part is that many many years ago when we’d only been living together a couple of years, I had found a print-out of a Japanese girl tied up in this fashion and I was so horrified (and completely immature) that he got turned on by this that we had a big fight about it. I think, now, that it had more to do with the gal in question being so tiny while I wasn’t. I didn’t see/say it that way, it was more, “Oh my gawd, how can you be into that and be into me and is this normal or healthy and oh my gawd” (many tears and shouting followed). Oh how wrong I was. But now I’m afraid that I scarred him with that incident and now he won’t talk about what turns him on or what he looks at in the porn dept. online (because I think there’s only one department, ha-ha!).

Sex is such a fantastic stress reliever, man. It’s also a ton of fun! And great cardio! Ha-ha! It’s just so human and basic and wonderful. I wish I’d know that ages ago! It seems so simple a concept, but you know, girls aren’t suppose to like it, right?! Ha-ha!

I can’t be the only one with these concerns, right? Any suggestions? Advice? Tips? Have your own sexy time concerns or fears? Tell me about it!

Without anything specific in mind to write about today because I’m on a mission to rid myself and my business of traditional big-banking and merchant services (most ironic name for an industry that does nothing but rip off merchants) I figured I’d give you a bit of a potluck, if you will, of things and links of love and more! Enjoy and please, as always, go bananas with the comments! I love it! <3

Our own beloved Mrs. Sprat from lipidlove.blogspot.com gives us the total treat of a sex toy review! I heart her so!

Great friend of this blog and it’s writer (c’est moi), WithoutScene has gone and outdone herself by starting TWO new blogs. Yeah, she’s kind of amazing in an out of this world yet so down to earth you can’t believe it sort of way. Just the names of the blogs are fantastic, but then you read her posts and you just know there is a reason she is in our lives (she also blogs on bigfatblog.com): badassfatass.blogspot.com and finessingthefuckyou.blogspot.com check it out and prepare to be glad that you did! <3

Charlotte Cooper responds to a piece in The Guardian and if you don’t already read her blog all of the time, man, you are missing out! This post in response to the Guardian thing is ripped right out of my own brain, I tell ya. Keep on rockin’, Charlotte! We need your voice and your magnificent brain in this big fat fight!

Tomorrow evening is the 3rd telesummit from Golda Poretsky’s Body Love Revolution and her guest will be none other than Marilyn Wann of “Fat! So?” fame! You cannot miss this, I promise, it will be tons-o-fun! I’ll be there! Register for the call Here!

Get 20% off your entire order at Eden Fantasys with the coupon code SEXYTWIST with $5.95 flat rate shipping, discreet billing & shipping and free returns and exchanges. How could you possibly go wrong with that?!

Brian from Red No. 3 had an amazing post up about privilege. And for the record, I would probably link to nearly any post on this topic, but he simply has a way with words that always strikes a chord with me. Follow is rad blog and be struck as well.

Have you been catching all of the rad fatty love over at Adipositivity.com? I have! It’s def NSFW, but it’s so radical (in both meanings of the word) to see these amazing fat bodies doing such, well, normal things, but in front of a lens for all of us to enjoy. And I do! <3

In case you missed the post today, redvinylshoes.com’s Tasha Fierce is now over here at sexandthefatgirl.com and that is just the coolest name for a blog I’ve heard in ages! She will also be writing for Bitch magazine with a column of the same name. Woo!

I may be late to the game, but I love the new look of NAAFA’s blog! Check it out.

I had a bit too much fun Saturday night at a friend’s for a board game night and felt pretty cruddy yesterday, but still managed to get out and enjoy the unseasonal California sun with my husband, bff and pug. Quiet night in last night and since I’m no sports fan I could honestly not care any less about that whole super bowl thing yesterday. Ha!

What’s on your mind today? How are you feeling? What do you need to get off of your chest? Tell me about it! <3

Mrs. Sprat is fat graduate student in Human Sexuality and her interests include fat sex, masturbation and body image.  Woo!
Please check out her blog http://lipidlove.blogspot.com/ and show her some love.

Fat Sex Tip # 5: Intercourse is Overrated

Okay, I get that there are people in the world who actually don’t masturbate for various and personal reasons. That’s cool. I also get that there are people who have no interest in sex at all. Also totally cool. No judgments from me. This post, though, may not be for you.
Also, if you know me or just don’t wanna hear about me masturbating, you can skip this post and come back tomorrow. Thanks!!! <3

Masturbation(link informative and cool, but NSFW): noun 1.the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, esp. to orgasm; sexual self-gratification. 2.the stimulation, by manual or other means exclusive of coitus, of another’s genitals, esp. to orgasm.

Well, that’s the dictionary definition anyway. I love all of the various euphemisms for it, but whatever you prefer, rock on! I’m talking about getting yourself (what I use when any other way won’t work). It’s something so very basic and normal, yet somehow our wonderful (sarcasm here) society has dubbed it taboo, or worse, Icky! Not in my book (oh wait, I have to write a book to say I have a book? F-that!)! It’s a great thing to do. It’s a great way to relax, treat yourself, let off some steam (ha!) or just do it for the sake of it. Ya know? And certainly we’re not the only beasts in nature doing it! Let’s discuss!

I can’t recall when I began masturbating, but I think I was about 13 or 14 when I started to orgasm from it. What a revelation! Ha! It was certainly all I had personally experienced in the way of sex until I actually lost my virginity later. It was also at this time that I started dating (I was always boy crazy) and fantasizing about guys and make-outs and all of that happy stuff. Even now as a married lady, I totally still masturbate. Sure I don’t have to, I could always ask for a hand or wait until my husband comes home or whatever the situation may be…but sometimes it’s just necessary! And that is totally rad!

I hate that masturbation is rarely talked about and often viewed as shameful. Fuck a whole lot of that! Ha! No, I think it’s kind of essential. I mean, you probably won’t die if you never do it, but I just prefer to live with it than without. And I sort of believe that everyone does it or has at the very least tried it once! No matter where you are, who you are or where you come from, you’ve probably gotten your rocks off at some point in your life. Just sayin’!

I wanted to talk about fat masturbation today. Why fat? Well, because I think it’s often overlooked and because I’m fat and I masturbate. Fair enough? Okay. Some of you may be thinking, “How would fat affect masturbating at all?” Well, in the same way it can affect sex! Positions matter, man! Some prefer the old fashioned way, while others prefer varying positions and toys. TOYS!

When I say old fashioned way I mean laying on your back with your legs apart. I would equate it to missionary intercourse. And I used to think that this was the only way to go about it, but then you spend enough time on your own and well you figure things out. I’m at the point now where I know how my parts work and what I need to do to them in order to get off. However, I have found that a lot of women do not in fact know their anatomy very well and either don’t masturbate or only do so on occasion and not as a regular thing. I encourage everyone (regardless of gender) to try stuff and see how it works. I am of the belief that you can’t fully enjoy partnered sex until you understand what works for you.

On the topic of toys, I have very limited experience and use. I generally go for clitoral stimulators/vibrators, but just recently bought a combo that, while not perfect or mind blowing, gets the job done in a way that I like. I have tried two different ones that claim g-spot stimulation, but they failed. I’m not particularly interested in the great g-spot expedition, but thought I’d give it a try! And that’s the cool part, tryin’ stuff! Try lube! Guys! Gals! Try it! It rocks! I was very apprehensive about it at first. I thought it meant my lady bits were dryer than the Sahara desert, but no, it’s not and lube is fun!

I would love to talk about varying techniques, toys, positions and everything in between. Please comment and share. Don’t be shy, we’re all pals here! What works for you, what doesn’t? Do you require music or just a spot away from the action?